Letter to St. Jude Children’s Hospital

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In early 2012, we reached out to St. Jude Children’s Hospital for our son RB (if this is your first visit, read about him here). The doctors at CHNOLA were hesitant to treat RB as they weren’t sure if he was “salvageable” (the word used by the doctor who advised us of this). We were told by a friend we should request a transfer to St. Jude. We did, but the staff at CHNOLA dragged their feet on calling with the referral until we went to administration about the issue. I personally spoke to the nurse coordinator of brain tumor patients at St. Jude’s.

After some days, and apparent discussions involving who knows what between St. Jude’s doctors and CHNOLA’s doctors, St. Jude determined RB could not be treated there as he did not meet their “criteria” (their word). Because he was on a ventilator, St. Jude would not take him. He is home now, on a home ventilator, and recovering well- after CHNOLA decided they could, in fact, take a stab at treating our child.

The day before we learned of RB’s cancer, my husband held a benefit for St. Jude Children’s Hospital at the business he once owned before it was dissolved due to lack of funds to keep it running. We’d donated to St. Jude for a long time before RB’s illness (We didn’t know of St. Baldrick’s Foundation then). We did so because St. Jude’s does help many children and families, and we do not deny that, but since we were refused their services and remained at CHNOLA, we have incurred-as one can imagine-many expenses that prevent us from being able to donate extra money each month. We called St. Jude and explained to them our monthly scheduled donations would have to stop and we explained why (because we were of course interrogated on our decision to stop donating). This, however, has not stopped St. Jude Children’s Hospital from mailing us solicitations asking for donations. Today I received yet another letter from their institution requesting donations, along with the letter detailing how terrible it is for kids and families that suffer through this terrible disease (OH REALLY? Didn’t notice!).  Instead of tossing it into the burn pile as I’d usually have done, I decided to send them a letter.

 

I want to make it clear that I do not want anyone to stop donating to St. Jude Children’s Hospital because of our experience.

They do a lot for children and families. They just decided not to help ours. There are foundations, such as the American Cancer Society, that I have decided are not worth donating to as they spend more on solicitation than funding research, and they spend next to nothing on pediatric cancer research. Because of our own situation, we have decided to dedicate our time and donations to St. Baldrick’s Foundation, an organization that spends the most of any cancer research foundation toward actual research. Their donations are used strictly to fund pediatric cancer research, something that is far underfunded. Only the U.S. Government spends more toward pediatric cancer research, and St. Baldrick’s uses over 80% of each dollar donated to funding research, unlike the ACS.

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I’m bald and badass for St. Baldrick’s

At any rate, I would like to share with you all the letter I wrote to St. Jude Children’s Hospital in regards to their constant solicitation.

 

“Dear St. Jude Children’s Hospital,

 

Our family wants nothing more than to help kids with cancer and their families. Our own son is in recovery from brain cancer for which he was treated at Children’s Hospital New Orleans. We would like to continue to donate to institutions such as St. Jude’s to help assist children with this devastating illness, however, when we reached out to your hospital for assistance, your hospital denied our son treatment because he didn’t meet the “criteria.” Because St. Jude Children’s Hospital refused us assistance, we have-as you may imagine-many unpaid medical bills. Therefore, we are not able to donate extra money. We would appreciate it if your institution would cease sending us mail asking for donations. Use the money instead for funds related to treating the sick children at your hospital and for assisting their families. My best regards and prayers to the children and families of St. Jude Children’s Hospital who are suffering through the same tremendously devastating and life-changing event as our family has been enduring for these last fourteen months. We appreciate your cooperation in not sending us more mail asking for donations.

 

Thank You,

 

Donnell C Jeansonne”

Ready to go. Unlikely to make a difference. But ready to go anyways.
Ready to go. Unlikely to make a difference. But ready to go anyways.

 

7 thoughts on “Letter to St. Jude Children’s Hospital”

    1. No. I’m sure some faceless mail sorter will open it and go “Pffft!” before tossing it aside. But it helps me feel better, anyway.

      1. I love how calm and peaceable you are about it despite the consequences the misaligned “criteria” have left you to cope with.

        I hope it does stop the mail. For my part, my campaign to get ACS to stop requesting my donations was finally successful when, after multiple emails and phone calls ceased to persuade them, I documented my requests in a very legal fashion and made it public via my Facebook page, to which I sent them a link. They apologized for continuing to solicit donations and have, in the 9-10 months since, have ceased their otherwise ceaseless campaign for my donations.

        When I have money, my donations, like yours, go to St. Baldrick’s. ♥

      2. Hiya! I’ve been wondering where you were hiding. I try not to be bitter. I am. But I try not to be. I wouldn’t want any child to lose the possibility of receiving treatment. We’re blessed in that everything so far has worked out for the best. Of course it’s taken a lot of work, but such is life. How have you been?

      1. I’m doing pretty well, thanks. Still sore. Still really tired, but I think I’m where I’m supposed to be a week post-op.
        Love and light to you and RB. xoxo

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